Marriage

There are some questions that muslim should ask about marriage.

(1) Do you want married?

Yes,very sure i want married. Allah said in the Quran :

"It is He who created you from a single soul, And made its mate of like nature in order that you might dwell with her in love...."(7:189) 

So the male and female complete each other - together they make a single self and this is how they must strive to make their lives together - as if they are one being, one person, one spirit.

The Qur'an says: 
"Your wives are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them." (2:187) 

So a husband and wife complete each other - each one takes on a new aspect of their humanity, a new facet and depth to their personality by entering into marriage and this is symbolized in this verse. Garments also conceal the body and protect the wearer so that a husband and wife are each other's protectors and helpers and each of them safeguards their partner's honor shaping the state of marriage into a haven and a sanctuary where each should feel safe and secure, sheltered in one another's care and guardianship.
 
The importance of the institution or marriage receives its greatest emphasis from the following Hadith of the Prophet. These aspects are beautifully explained in a tradition of the Prophet. It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said,

"When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."

The Prophet considered marriage for a Muslim as half of his religion because it shields him from promiscuity, adultery, fornication, homosexuality etc., which ultimately lead to many other evils like slander, quarreling, homicide, loss of property and disintegration of the family. According to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) the remaining half of the faith can be saved by Taqwa.

"Marriage is my sunnah. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me."

The qur'an also says
"And of everything we created a pair, that happily you may remember." (Qur'an 51:49) 

The word for spouse, "zawj", (this is the word that is used in the marriage ceremony, the Nikkah ceremony) - the word zawj literally means one part of a pair - and when the pair come together and act in concert with one another, then concealed potentials within them, potentials that were impossible to realize while they were apart make themselves evident. This is true throughout creation. And human marriage in the Qur'an is considered a reflection of a nature and tendency that exists at all levels of creation. When something is created as one part of a pair it is clearly incomplete without the other - as the Qur'an states, 

"He himself created the pair, male and female." (Qur'an 53:45)
 
Allah subhanahu wataala said in the Quran:
 
"It is He who created you from a single soul, And made its mate of like nature in order that you might dwell with her in love...."(7:189)

"And of everything we created a pair, that happily you may remember." (Qur'an 51:49)

"He himself created the pair, male and female." (Qur'an 53:45)

From this ayah, we can see that it is a fitrah for man to get married with women. If we go through the Islamic history, after Allah had created Adam from clay, He saw Adam very lonely. Then Allah created Hawa from Adam's rib as his partner. Then, Adam become very happy. It clearly shows that man need woman as their life partner.


(2) Who is your spouse?

Prophet said :
The Prophet (SAW) taught us in many hadith about the various characteristics which one looks for in a spouse and their relative importance and which ones determine success insha Allah and Allah's blessing on a marriage.  Among those hadith:
 
"Inna al-mar'ata tunkahu lideeniha wa maaliha wa jamaaliha fa 'alaika bi dhaati ad-deeni taribat yadaaka."

"A woman is married for her deen, her wealth or her beauty.   You must go for the one with deen, may your hands be in the dust! (if you fail to heed)"  Muslim
 
"Takhayyaroo li nutafikum fankihoo al-akfaa'u wa ankihoo ilaihim."

"Choose carefully for your seed.  Marry those who are equivalent (or "qualified") and give to them in marriage."  Ibn Majah and others and it is sahih.

In the following sections, we will discuss insha Allah, some of the most important characteristics that can be found in the Qur'an and the sunnah when it come to choosing a good spouse.
 
In case a Man Looking for a Woman:

The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "A woman is normally sought as a wife for her wealth, her beauty, her nobility, or her deen (religiousness), so choose a religious woman and you will prosper." (Muslim)

In case a Woman's Family Looking for a Man:
 
The Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied, asks to marry your daughter, agree to his request. If you do not do so, there will be corruption and great evil on earth." (Tirmithi)

(3) Why do you married?
A good attention

(4)How do you married?